Barbizon of Akron knows that struggling with self-confidence is something that many of us face on a daily basis. It’s hard when you feel as if you aren’t good enough or feel as though someone else is better at a particular sport or school subject. These thoughts and feelings can be a real good mood killer, and since summer is here, a good mood is definitely something we want to have every day! Here are some tips you can put to good use on days where you feel down right dull!
First and foremost, the most important thing in obtaining self-confidence is to STOP COMPARING YOURSELF TO SOMEONE ELSE! I’m sure you have heard the saying, “the grass is greener on the other side,” right? Well it’s not. We all have hardships, and we all have bad days. Some people are just better at hiding it than others. Think of it like this, if you and all of your friends wrote out your problems and threw them in a fish bowl, and chose one of the problem at random, you would be pretty quick to grab your own problems back after reading what other people experience on a daily basis. So, repeat after me, I AM GOING TO STOP COMPARING MY LIFE TO ANOTHER PERSON’S LIFE! Good!
Another part of life that can put a damper on our self-confidence is how to think about our body image. None of us are perfect, that is something really important to remember. We all have flaws and we all make mistakes. It doesn’t matter how many hours you spend sweating at the gym, if you aren’t putting in the work solely for feeling good for yourself, you’re never going to have self-confidence. You will constantly be competing to achieve someone else’s look, and that’s not right. Do something for yourself. Run those 5 miles because it makes you feel as if you’re doing something good for your body. When you do things to achieve your own happiness, and stop worrying about looking good for someone else, you can’t help but to experience self-confidence.
Every night, I want you to sit down with yourself and really get to know YOU. At the end of the day, make a list of all of the things you did that made you feel good. If you’re having trouble doing this, plan specific things throughout your day that you know will make you happy, for example, tackle a math problem that you have been having trouble with, be nice to the person that other people make fun of, go out of your way for someone else, plan a nice surprise for your friends or family, look in the mirror and smile. These are several examples of how you can feel more confident with yourself.
In my life journey to achieve happiness, I’ve learned it comes from doing nice things for other people. When you feel good about helping someone else, people will notice how confident in yourself you are. They’ll notice you are bubbly, and they’ll notice that you must be a pretty secure person to go out of your way to put someone else’s feelings first.
Barbizon of Akron urges you to try these tips out; they’ll help you feel better about yourself and your self-confidence. We all struggle, but it’s nice to know that there are ways we can change that.
By: Kelley Notaro